I was watching “The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants 2”. I havent finished watching it.
There is this pharse which really caught my attention and made me think.
“learn how to become ourselves without losing each other.”
As the famous saying goes, change is the only constant in the world. Its true. Not only the things around us change, but we as individuals change too. These changes maybe for the good or bad. But that is not what I want to talk about. As we grow older, as we realise who we are, how we want to live our lives, we realise that it is no longer the same as we wanted when we younger or same as what our friends want. We realise that there are alot of differences who we are as a person compared to your close friends. And the result of this difference is growing apart. It is very rare that anyone learns to be himself without losing his friends. When we want different things, we think we are no longer similar or we do not think alike. But in real it is not the similarities that makes the friendship special but it is the differences that makes the friendship unique. We are different and unique individuals but still together. When changes occur in our personality or our way of thinking or in our environment, it doesnt really mean that we still cant share the good old times we had and can have. We do not need to go with the flow of our work or the friends you can get into contact at that time frame. Then what is supposed to your close friends who are no longer near you. Where did that friendship go? If the closeness in a friendship can only be maintained by seeing each other daily, then I would say there is something lacking in that friendship. When the physical distance becomes longer, the friendship would not be strong to go all the way. We grow till we die. We may not see each other very often. We may not even talk over the phone or sms often. But taking the effort to meet up once in a while. To spent time with friends and to remember each other’s birthday or any other important dates in the rush and still finding the 2 mins to call and wish the person. You know how happy it makes the heart. But sadly, as we discover who we are and where we are going in life, burdens push us down and work becomes our life and convenience is looked for lot, that friendships lose their value. Looking for a convenient friendship is not how you become yourself and not lose each other. I donnoe whether I made much sense. But I feel that it is almost impossible to learn how to become ourselves without losing each other. ALMOST IMPOSSIBLE.